My fourth Conversations with a babe features Naijababe...
Make una sit down with pen and paper...yes u've got to keep notes...
For Conversation 1:
Conversations with a Babe
For Conversation 2:
conversations with a babe 2 (zephi)
For Conversations Three:
Conversations With A Babe 3 (OK)
18andabove: so naija babe....why use that name?
NB: No Idea....I just chose it randomly!
18andabove: why do you blog?
NB: I read a few blogs, and seeing as I hardly talk to people about stuff, I thought It'd be a good option for me. Here people only judge you by what they know unlike out there where people's judgements about you are infiltrated with things they see and hear about you, that they choose to misconstrue and thus make wrong judgements about you.
18andabove: what motivates you to want to get that message out?
NB: Hmmm...no idea....I guess its something I just do
18andabove: Okay...i personally think "LOVE" is overrated, what do you think abt that...
NB: Naa, I dont think Love is overrated, I just think its a matter of good things coming to those who wait.
18andabove: I have a view that most of the women in blogville are like radio station presenters...good voices but not really fine...well with exceptions...wld u be one?
NB: Beauty is in the eye of the beholder..some voices take your breath away but then the faces bring you back, but some, once you are taken away..the looks dont matter. Am I an exception? I believe so, but I'll leave that to the person judging.
18andabove: What are your views about sex before marriage?
NB: I believe in no sex before marriage, but then again, circumstances might change...if the marriage is looking like a sure deal, then why not?
18andabove: and whats the worst pickup line you heard in a while?....lol
NB: Arrogant as it may sound, I havent had pick up lines used on me....or they were just too sublte for me to notice.
18andabove: you never noticed them use pickup lines, they must be really suave...
NB: would want to keep your maiden name even after getting married?
Yes I'd love to kep my maiden name....lol I'll then become the double barreled 'Mrs'
18andabove: ever used a dating service b4?
NB: Nope, never used a dating site
18andabove: so is it safe to say...u date guys according to your mood?
NB: No it is not safe to say that o.
18andabove: then are u single?
NB: Yes I am..
18andabove: if yes, why?
NB: Because there isnt any one out there. Everyone seems to have this pre requisites thing, honestly I dont have one. I guess its just a matter of I see something in someone that even though all others may have it, it is complemented with smething else that thus makes him unique.If I had a list of criteria...no one would be suitable for me.
18andabove: wat do u think i shd do?
18andabove: theres this chick really tripping for me but doent no ow to tell me...
NB: How can you tell that she is till tripping for you?
18andabove: and she has a 8yr old son
18andabove: u see we used to date....b4 she became pregnant years ago...
NB: So did she get pregnant for someone else whilst you guys were dating?
18andabove: Yeah and I’m sure he isn’t mine cause I didn’t do it then…lol …I was too naïve.Anyways,how do i tell her or show her that am not interested
NB: Can I ask why you’re not interested? Is it that you’ve moved on for other reasons or because she has a child.
18andabove:wld u date someone that has a 8 yr old son?
NB: Well it depends. I cant say its easy, but if its worth my while, then why not. However selfish of me, I think I can only go into it if the child’s mother isn’t in the picture anymore. If she is, even if she is married to another person, I still think too many people in the circle causes too many issues.
18andabove: ow do I tell a gal off?
NB: Lol…this is a funny one. Depends on if she’s a biatch…If she is…put her in her place…no story.
18andabove: one of u called me a small boy yesterday when i said i wanted to ask her out
NB: Erm ask who out?
18andabove: One Chick like that… so how do u change that impression when thats already ow she thinks?
NB: When someone thinks you are a small boy? Well again, it depends on where she sees you as a small boy. Some girls think its cos you still hop the train and not have a ride that makes you a small boy. Some others think its on maturity level. If it’s the former, please, jabo the babe sharpish, and if it’s the latter, then you might wanna work on that.
18andabove: ok...ve u called someone a small boy b4? or looked at them that way?
NB: Yeah, quite a lot. Usually its to do with their way of thinking…maturity on their end must have been veryyy low.
18andabove: BUT ITS REALLY NOT EASY FOR US WORKING CLASS TO MEET SOMEONE ABI?
NB: Who says?
18andabove: APART FROM WEDDINGS WHERE IS IT SURE BANKER THAT U CAN GET A SINGLE BABE.
NB: I guess other gatherings. BBQ’s, church, mosque, the gym…you never know!
18andabove: so apart from watching tv, what does a girl...sorry lady like u do, when u come back from work.
NB: I read lightly, eat and SLEEP!
18andabove: i thought u'd say "start getting ready for a date"
NB: Lol…how I wish.
18andabove: so lets say u were going for one, what preparations wld u make?
NB: Shower, get dressed and go. What else?
18andabove: ok...so wld u want to go where he likes, or where u like?
NB: I hardly go out, so I would be crap at choosing a place, so I’d leave it to him.
18andabove: where wld ur own ideal location be?
NB: No idea! If its dinner, then obviously a nice restaurant.
18andabove: ok..so he's car,a cab,a bus or u guys trek...lol
NB: Honestly, I guess the ‘ideal’ girl’s date is he either has a car or you guys take a cab. I won’t do bus, sorry. But I would love to walk…I think its nice.
18andabove: emm...okay so in what direction wld u want the conversation to go...when u guys are talking.
NB: Anywhere, we start with the obvious, work, life, maybe relationships…anything goes
18andabove: SO WHAT WLD BE A CONVERSATION KILLER
NB: I think talking about your ex, especially if you guys don’t know each other that well.
18andabove: SO WLD A KISS ON THE 1ST NIGHT BE IN ORDER?
NB: Once again, depends on how long you’ve known each other. If you’ve been talking for quite a while and the date was just something to make it official then, why not, otherwise, I don’t think its in order.
18andabove: OKAY SO IF HE MADE AN ATTEMPT,HE'D PROBABLY GET A SLAP...LOL
NB: Ah ah, unless you never want to see him again. If you do, then you turn him down nicely.
18andabove: OK...BUT YOU'LL BE EXPECTING HIS CALL AFTER THE DATE ABI?
NB: Yeah! Big time.
18andabove: SO WHEN IS THE CALLING TO EARLY OR TOO LATE...
NB: Too early would be when he gets back into his car, and too late would probably be if I’m getting ready for work the next morning.
18andabove: WLD U EVER CALL A GUY U LIKE AS IN AFTER THE DATE?
18andabove: I THOUGHT IF HE WAS INTERESTED IN A FOLLOW UP DATE HE'D CALL?
NB: Well you can clarify that when you call abi? Whats the point of waiting to find out.
18andabove: come to think of it...what do u look out for when a guy approaches u...
NB: Lol…you don’t prememditate those kind of things, do you?
18andabove: so if its a short person like me...u'll just give me ur best snubish look...lol
NB: Hehe…no we’d be friends in a way that I’d hint I don’t want anything more…LOL.. thats jokes though. but how short are you?
18andabove: I’m 5 7 ok, and don’t go rubbing it in…lol ...wld u go out on a date with anyone that asks u?
NB: Ermm no.
NB: If I don’t feel like it or if I know there is no point wasting my time.
18andabove: the question wld be..u're looking at this tall,dark and handsome guy...speaking good english....comfortable...
18andabove: he asks u for a date & u say no....somethings definately wrong...lol
NB: Yes, talk dark, handsome guy can be STUPID too.
18andabove: lol...so like ow many guys ask u out everyday...dont exagerate o...
NB: Everyday? Approximately zero.
18andabove: okay lets say a week...
NB: Same as above.
18andabove: That’s serious o…lol
18andabove: did u know that...the average single person goes on 22 dates, has 3 one-night-stands and three serious relationships before "settling down with The One."
NB: Lol, none of those have applied to me yet….when it does, I’ll let you know.
18andabove: wld u ask someone to marry u...
NB: Hmmm that’s a bit tricky o! I think it’s the other way round, and I think I’d leave it that way.
18andabove: that wld be too much abi...lol
18andabove: the height of desperation.
NB: Ermmm yeah…something like that.
18andabove: whats the significance of a kiss to u...?
NB: Ermmm, no clue!
18andabove: which is more intimate...the kiss or the other thing...lol
NB: See above…lol
I’m being serious o!
18andabove: NB…hey…you’re scaring me…lol ,well thats u or most women...
NB: I think that’s just me
18andabove: wld u say thats it for most women too...
18andabove: so what 1st comes to ur mind when a guy invites u to his place
NB: Hehe…I’ve been warned…I’d rather invite him to mine. Even if in both cases, we’d still be alone. Theres still some sort of security and regard for me, when we’re at mine.
18andabove: Does the age factor play a role in your relationship?
NB: Well, it bothers me, I wont lie.
18andabove: How do you know your guy loves you?
NB: He is willing to apologise when he’s wrong and he tells me when he’s upset about something, rather than keep a grudge. Cos if he keeps a grudge, that means he’s not talking to me, and if he’s not talking to me, then he doesn’t miss me…need I say more?
18andabove: Could you attend you Ex-boyfriend wedding?
NB: Because why?
18andabove: Is it possible to love two guys?
NB: Hmmm, I don’t think so
18andabove: Wld you date a guy shorter than you?
NB: Depends on how short. One inch, not bad…when its reaching 5 or 6, then erm..
18andabove: What about one with a different religion?
NB: Not really
18andabove: What about one in a different tribe?
NB: Nope. I can deal with hausa…def not ibo tho
18andabove: NB, that’s abt it….thanks so much for your time…and we’ll definitely be doing this again…you said you were single right….lol….
18andabove: you know who to call when you’re lonely and in need of some hmmm TLC…lol..