Wednesday, June 11, 2008

How Ugly Men Attract Women...

It's a sad fact of life that everyone out
there has some type of insecurity that makes
them feel "unattractive." Even the most
beautiful women in the world have stuff about
them that makes them feel ugly at times.

For men - their visual nature can often times
make them very critical of their own appearance.
There is always something that makes us
feel as though we are ugly.

Maybe it's the fact that we are too short,
or fat, or bald, or old? There are any
number of factors that make us feel "unworthy"
of the attentions of beautiful women.

But if that was the case - no one would ever be
able to attract a woman at all!

In fact, the next time you're out, take a mental
note of every guy you see with an attractive girl,
and try and appraise whether or not you think that
guy's looks are worthy of the girl he's with.

Sure, sometimes you'll find a guy who's with a
girl and they are both fine credits to their
species. But most of the time, what you'll
find is the guys with really hot and appealing
women range from "average" to "ugly" in the
looks department.

That's because beauty - in men - is the exception,
not the standard.

But more than that, men rely on factors OTHER
than their looks to help attract the kinds of
women they want to them.

There are three major factors that most men try
and utilize to the best of their ability when
attracting new and exciting women to them.
They are:

1. Wealth

2. Social Status

3. Personality

Let's go through these one at a time...

The first factor men use to attract the opposite
sex is their wealth, or finances. Proving one's
"provider" status to women is a sure fire
way to get female attention. After all, what woman
DOESN'T want to be pampered?

However, there is a big problem with this tactic.
First of all, not everyone is rich or wealthy, so
this factor is reserved for the few that are.
More than that, women often feel like you're
trying to "bribe" or "impress" them with your
wealth, and because of that, they will treat you
more like an ATM machine with feet, rather than a
loving, caring, mate.

Keep in mind that there is nothing wrong with
using financial success to draw women into you.
But unless you have the money in the bank to
do so, you can't rely on this method to get you
a good woman.

The second factor is social status. Women are very
attuned to the social hierarchy of things, so having
a "high status" around women definitely makes any
man more attractive.

This status comes from holding a certain position
of power. It could be an important job, some type
of fame, or just the esteem of your peers.

However, one of the difficulties with this is
that you need to be able to display social status.
You can't just tell someone "I'm a very important
person" and have them believe it. They have to
get a sense of it themselves, and sometimes your
situation is not conducive to communicating this
(like meeting a woman on the street for instance.
She has no idea who you are!).

Also - not everyone has a high social status. Some
people are content with maintaining a medium to low
level status. Where does that leave these people?

With the THIRD factor - that of Personality.
The thing I like about personality is that it's
something EVERYONE can use to attract the kind
of women they desire, and it doesn't matter
how much money you make or what your social
situation is like.

Having an attractive personality is the best
way for "average" or "unattractive" men to get
women interested in them. Being able to make
a woman laugh will turn her on more than a guy
with big muscles and a full head of hair.

Understand that women are slaves to their emotions,
and your personality is the method by which you
trigger emotions inside a woman!

The better your personality, the better you're
able to make a woman feel.

And your personality is something that can be
changed and cultivated over time. You can make
yourself into anything you want to be! It's
truly amazing how some "losers" can become
"rockstars" in the eyes of their friends and the
women they like just by tweaking their personality
a little bit.

So how do you do this?

The first step is to really work on your confidence.
The more confident you are, the better you're able
to display your personality.

Working on your social skills will also help you
to be relaxed and have fun around women. This
will create new opportunities for attraction.

And learning how to create strong emotional bonds
is also the best way there is to get a woman
emotionally attached to you.


  1. Hmmm... 'oro agba'(words of elders).

  2. I was doing some research on this topic when I came across your post and I must say I do agree with you that looks do not get you women.
    But I think that you would agree that with the way fuel prices are rising money is becoming an increasingly important factor in attracting women.

  3. @ naijaleta....oga i'm not that old o...thanks for visiting i guess so...
    but its very easy attracting a lady to u can see

  4. If you are an unattractive man then it is perfectly ok to pursue a relationship with a person of your sexual orientation, however, where I disagree is the thinking that every ugly, undesirable and shall we say less than perfect mating specimen somehow "deserve" an attractive girl: you don't.

    I mean why would you expect an attractive partner when you are not attractive yourself? Contrary to what you may have read women are also visual creatures and we are attracted to good look. Don't ever let anyone one tell you otherwise.

    Also remember that women, contrary to what you may seem to think perhaps because of personal experiences, 'like sex' and so, good look is an important part of it, not the only part, but an important one.

  5. Great points altogether, you simply won a brand new reader.