Does this situation sound familiar to you?
You meet a girl, and she's really great.
You get to know her, hang out with her,
and try and figure out the right time
to tell her how you feel.
Finally, you work up the courage to do so,
and she responds:
"I like you, but let's just be friends."
Why does this happen? Why does the girl
decide you're not "boyfriend material?"
Well, there are a couple of reasons why
The first of which is that you did not set
the stage properly when you first met the
Instead of flirting and showing interest
in her, you decided to "play it safe" and
"fly under the radar" by pretending you
weren't interested in her so you wouldn't
scare her off.
Lack of any sexual tension will result in
the girl pegging you as a "friend" and
The second is that you most likely adopt
the friend role yourself!
You do things a friend would do - listen
to her problems, be the shoulder to cry
on, be there to support her when she needs
And on, and on, and on.
And guess what? Because of this, she gets
USED to you being this way!
And people do not like to change things.
So when you want to become more than just
a friend, she's afraid to allow that to
Well, the first reason is that it's to her
benefit to do so. She gets all she needs
without having to put up with "relationship"
She might also be afraid that if she allows
things to change, she might LOSE YOU as a
friend, so she decides to play it safe.
Finally, the biggest reason a guy gets stuck
in the friend zone is because the girl thinks
he's cool, but there's no ATTRACTION there.
There's no desire. No magnetism. No sexual
So from the girl's point of view, there's no
REASON to change things!
But you have to understand - attraction is
something that can be created. If you have
not attracted the girl, then you're dooming
yourself to just being a friend.
If you want to make sure you don't get stuck
as the friend, you need to do three things...
1. Be honest about your intentions from the
2. Adopt the "boyfriend" role, not the "friend"
3. Create attraction.
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