Why Does It Work For Everyone Else But You?

Sometimes people think that my tactics work for
everyone else BUT them.

Like they are some "special case" cursed with
failure.

But the truth is, they aren't! If you're not
getting results, it's because you're doing something
WRONG.

Take this story for example...

QUESTION:>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Hello,

I was reading your email, and I am interested
in your book. My question to you is, first of
all, how BIG is the book (how many pages) ?

Secondly, I just wanted to say that I've been
reading dating ebooks from other people's products
for years now, and I actually STILL don't have
any success.

And to top it off, I think of myself as a catch...
so I don't understand why I can't meet women Or
worst off, why it SEEMS like the techniques,
"work for everybody else, but they just don't
work for me."

This makes me feel like there's no hope and
purpose to even read.

My third question is this: I live in Manhattan,
NYC and I am trying to learn how to meet women
on the streets because I see TONS and TONS of
attractive and available women on the streets
all the time....

But the problem is that they're always WALKING,
and MOVING.

I don't know how to go about ANYTHING with these
women. It's almost like you have to chase them
if you wanna talk to them....

Another obstacle that I find is that, I don't
want to scare them. I figure a strange man
walking up to her on the street will scare her,
and scaring her,,,, scares ME.... will you're
product get me to a point where I can do this??

I really wanna become the guy that literally has
TONS and TONS of hot women all over him, and I'm
really willing to do WHATEVER it takes to do it...
but I just can't get it to WORK... Literally....

I keep running into a wall somewhere... I'm not
the type of guy who goes to bars, and I really
don't know where else to go to meet women, EXCEPT
on the STREETS. When I say on the streets I mean
in public, like walking down the street, sitting
on a park bench, standing in front of a store
smoking a cigarette, etc....

I am actively trying to get this handled... not like
these guys who just read stuff and then sit around
and not do anything. I actually made a committment
to myself to go outside, EVERYDAY, and walk the
streets talking to women. I brought a tiny journal
so I can journal my experieces and results, so I
have the GUTS to do pretty much ANYTHING, but like
I said, I keep running into a bunch of, "NOs."

For example, I walked up to about 25 women over a
period of days, and documented what happened, and
I more or less asked most of them if they were
single and ALL of them virtually said, NO they
aren't, and kept moving.... then I asked a few
women who were random strangers, "Do you wanna have
sex??" And pretty much got a few no's also. That's
what I mean, when I say my efforts seem to be
getting me nowhere... I stuck with it for about 2
maybe 3 weeks, then I pretty much just stopped.
That was about 2 and a 1/2 months ago.

Amin, NYC, 25.


MY RESPONSE:>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Oh, dear, dear Amin... you're doing some things
right, but other things very, very WRONG.

And you don't even have my book! No wonder you're
frustrated. :-(

Okay, let's begin with the good stuff...

First of all, I want to commend you on having the
commitment to make this work, and actually go out
and meet women.

THAT is one of the hardest things to do - actually
get off your butt and start talking to girls!

If you can do that, you're halfway to where you need
to be.

You also seem to have some self-esteem going. You
feel you're a catch, which is good. Guys who don't
feel worthy of women have a hard time getting them.

You are also making time to get out of the house
and meet people. This is great! You realize that
you can't meet women sitting in a dark corner of
your room, so you're doing something to change that.

All of these are good things.

Now, onto the BAD stuff...

First of all - meeting women on the street is a
tough way to start out.

Having been to New York many times, I realize that
there are gobs and gobs of amazing women on the
streets, since New Yorkers tend to WALK a lot.

But as you're finding out, it is very hard to
approach women on the streets!

Unless you get them at a crosswalk or someplace
where they've stopped briefly, it is hard to
approach them.

Seriously - the best way I've found to do street
approaches is to actually FOLLOW the woman to where
she's going, and then approach her once she's there.

But this can really take you out of your way,
and some guys feel like a "stalker" doing it.

What you have to realize is that it's best to go
somewhere to meet women that makes things easy
on you.

Instead of prowling the streets, go someplace you
enjoy going - a coffee shop, a book store, a theater,
Manhattan has a billion of these places.

Go to Times Square at lunch time. Go to the Park.
Go places where women HANG OUT instead of WALK.

This makes approaching way easier.

Also - make meeting women part of your life. So
when you're going to the grocery store, or dropping
off your dry cleaning - or WHATEVER - if you see an
opportunity with a woman, you go for it!

So that's about where you meet women, let's talk
about the HOW.

Seriously - I don't know what "dating books" you've
been reading, but if you're going up to girls and
asking:

"Are you single?"

Or

"Do you want to have sex?"

Right off the bat, it's no wonder you are meeting
with frustration.

Neither of these are good ways to approach women!

Bad, bad Amin!

When you approach a woman, you don't want to come
off TOO sexual. Asking her if she's single or
if she wants to boink you before any trust or
comfort is built up on her part is a very bad
idea.

Instead, you want to start off light, and engage
her in a conversation that allows her to experience
feelings of trust and comfort with you.

The more comfortable she is talking to you, the
more willing she'll be to give you her number or
go out on a date.

Remember: especially in a city like New York, 90%
of your beginning game is convincing girls you're
a nice, normal guy and not a weirdo loser.

So if you approach women the way I tell you to in
my book, you BYPASS the rejection phase by engaging
them in nice, normal conversation.

Then, during that conversation, you create emotional
connections that lead to you asking for (and getting)
the date.

Remember - approaching women won't SCARE them unless
you're being scary. Coming off too strong or saying
the wrong things will creep any woman out.

But if you approach them the RIGHT WAY, they will not
only be fine with it, they will actually WELCOME
you talking to them - because women love it when
they meet great guys and not creeps!

Joseph Matthews