Wednesday 6th of August 2008 (Misconceptions)

Tell me if you agree with any of these statements about men:

-Men like a challenge. They like the chase. If you're too "easy" or approachable, they'll get bored or lose interest.

-Men are dominant in relationships and women therefore are unable to express
themselves.

-Men cheat and are incapable of being monogamous.

-Men would secretly love to date and sleep with different women the rest of their life rather than just have to stay with one serious committed relationship.

-Men just want to have fun and "freedom" and no responsibility.

Did you find yourself nodding at any of these?

Unfortunately you’re wrong….

TRUTH #1: Men Don't Need To Chase

It's been said many times by many people that men need to be made to chase a woman in order to want her and commit wholeheartedly.

Not true.

If you are not running, why do I need to chase you?

Rather than wanting to "chase" a woman, men are humans first.

I want and need to feel a deep, emotional level of attraction for a woman if i want you in my life.

"Physical Attraction" i can feel for any chick who walks by is not enough, and will never be enough to make me want something more than a casual fling.
and i get easily "bored" and lazy about a relationship or any kind of commitment if I’m not feeling this Emotional Attraction for you.

Emotional attraction goes way beyond what a babe looks like, what she says or how successful she is.

If i sense that a woman knows what she wants and isn't afraid to go after it, and that
she has certain "standards" of what she will or won't put up with from a man, then i will feel incredibly drawn to her.

It has nothing to do with playing GAMES or pretending to be "hard to get."
If you continue to do that you miss all the good guys….like me…lol

If you think that men just want to "chase" a woman and that acting or being "unavailable" is a turn-on for him, then I have to tell you right now, you're not going to get far with a man.

Cause if the guy’s like me, I spend my money, time and resources “chasing” you, when I get you what do you think will happen? I’ll have just have sex with you and most definitely break your heart…


TRUTH #2: Men Feel Emotions Just Like Women

Believe it not, men are pretty sensitive….yes I cry too…lol

It's just how we handle our feelings that makes us hard to connect with about it, and
hard to understand -

Men have a hard time dealing with strong emotions from women. Why do you think we try to leave the room during arguments…lol

in a recent groundbreaking study of how couples interact when in conflict, it was discovered that men often LOOK detached or withdrawn because we feel intensely STRESSED by the argument.

It's not that we're more "in control."

On the contrary - we feel LESS in control.

So we withdraw in order to try and cope.


TRUTH #3: Men Want Relationships

Not all men love the single life of Parties, Girls , Sex…
Men want to be in a relationship, and they have a strong desire to feel recognized as a great partner by their women.

Have you ever accused a man of being "not ready" for a relationship?

Here's a mind-blowing statistic: WOMEN (not men) break off relationships or file for divorce 70% of the time.

If that surprises you, you may also be surprised to know that a man enjoys being in
committed, loving relationships as much as a woman does.

AS LONG AS IT DOESN'T FEEL HARD TO HIM.

If you give a man the impression that he can't please you no matter WHAT he does, or that everything he does is pointless because he can'tdo ANYTHING right, then guess what?

He's going to wonder if he's the right partnerfor you, and he's going to begin to doubt whether or not he should even continue the relationship.

Maybe you're saying, "but I don't do that!"

It's true. You may not even be aware that you're doing this.

But there are certain words and phrases thatcommunicate this to a man whether you're aware of it or not.

Instead, when you show a man that you trust him to be a good partner to you, you will actually inspire him and trigger his devotion and attraction for you.


More Misconceptions
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